29. HAYES AND DOLLY IN OLD AGE
Dolly and Hayes in later years.
The Copps left their homestead after about 1881, famously parting company after fifty years of marriage. The story has it that Dolly declared on her fiftieth wedding anniversary (11/2/1881) "Hayes is well enough, but fifty years is long enough for a woman to live with any man!"
It is interesting that already by this time Copp Family lore was established as part of the history of the White Mountains. This is evidenced by a delightful excerpt from a book published in 1882 entitled "The Heart of the White Mountains."
A story about them in the Lewiston Journal of 9/12/1953 states that “Afterward in their declining years, Dolly and Hayes still saw each other. They visited the other’s home on several occasions. Quite evidently everything was amicable between them.”
Dolly went to live with her daughter Sylvia Potter
at 29 Parker Street in Auburn, Maine, an urban neighborhood just
north of downtown off of today's Route 4.
Dolly's Auburn, Maine
Camper Nancy Birch investigating in 2002 found the private home well maintained. But in 1886 Son Nathaniel signed an agreement to participate in Dolly's care.
Hayes went to live in Stow, Maine with Dolly's nephew James Clifford Emery. Stow is on the far side of the Carter Range, near the New Hampshire Line, about 40 miles west of Dolly in Auburn.
In 2002 Nancy Birch visited Mount Auburn Cemetery where Dolly is buried. She says the Potter Family plot is not far from the entrance to the older part of the cemetery.
Dolly Copp's headstone
in Mount Auburn Cemetery.
Nancy observed the headstone and the side facing the road reads “Dolly E.” on the other side is Dolly Emery/ Wife of/ Hayes D. Copp/ Died Oct 4, 1891/ Aged 84 yrs 5 mos.”
Hayes Copp's headstone
in Fryeburg, Maine
Excerpts from the July 2009 emails from Mark and
Elizabeth that accompanied the above gravestone photo:
The grave is off of Harbor
Road in Fryeburg, Maine down a little lane between the Bradley
Methodist Church and the Old Saco River in Fryeburg Harbor, Bemis
Cemetery, Row 2.
As for the artificial red flower in the photo, we do not know who left that there and a few others are dotted here and there. There are several Emerys next to Hayes's stone.
The Copps raised four children, as follows:
1) JEREMIAH B. COPP, born 9/7/1832, married Susan Gray Rogers in 1858 and left the farm that year, died in Meredith, NH 9/5/1910.
According to the Copp Genealogy “He was a skilled woodsman and was often employed by tourists as a guide. He helped lay the first section of the Cog Railway up Mount Washington and worked as a carpenter in the Tip Top House. He resided for 46 years in Littleton, NH.”
2) NATHANIEL E. COPP, born 1/4/1834, married Esther Willey in 1860, married a second time also. He left the area for many years, returning to the homestead before 1885, leaving again after its sale. He died in Auburn, Maine.
According to the Genealogy “He is described as a man of iron muscle and indomitable pluck. He once dragged the body of a deer weighing 256 pounds for eight miles through soft snow. He traveled extensively and is said to have spent some time with the circus.”
A link with the historic Copp Family, thru the line from son Nathaniel, was established in 2009 with the receipt of the message below from Dolly's great great great great granddaughter, Shelly Ann Bennett Mathias who lives near Stowe, Maine:
was looking at your Dolly Copp campground web site. I came across
the section showing Dolly's gravestone and a comment wondering
if there are any existing relatives.
(Mary Emma Copp
also had another daughter named Martha "Mattie." And
Mary Emma Copp had a sister named Jennie Copp buried in Poland
Murch Cemetery So. Casco Maine. Poor copy: the "Poland"
looks to be cemetery name but could be a married last name).
E. Jones of Portland, Maine married
--- Whose son Harold Gordon Bennett (Generation 5) married Hattie Chipman Mason (my grandparents, now deceased). Harold and Hattie Bennett had 6 children: M.Elaine, Pauline, Marilyn, John, Joel and Edward (Generation 6).
Harold Gordon Bennett
--- One of their sons, my Dad Edward Gordon Bennett (Generation 6) has siblings living.
--- I am Shelly Ann Bennett Mathias (Generation 7) and have other first cousins living.
3) HANNAH SYLVIA COPP, born 11/18/1838, married (1st) Benjamin Potter of New Gloucester, Maine in 1858 and left the farm (Cross), married (2nd) Edwin M. Hanson. She died on 10/29/1929 in Auburn Maine.
4) DANIEL STICKNEY COPP, born 8/14/1848, married Lizzie Arianna Drew at Richwood, Ohio on 12/18/1874. According tot the Copp Genealogy Lizzie “was a refined and cultured young lady, who had studied at Oberlin College; she met Daniel Copp when a summer visitor in New Hampshire.
They lived quietly for many years at Richwood, Ohio. Mrs. Copp was interested in educational and philanthropic work and founded the Lizze A. Copp Industrial School for Girls in Burma, the School for Orphan Girls at Oneida, Kentucky, and the Alvan Drew School at Pine Ridge, Kentucky.”
According to the records of Claibourne
Township, Ohio, Daniel “was reared on a farm and received
an ordinary public school education. In 1877 he came to Ohio and
located at Fremont, where he remained until 1881, when he removed
to Claibourne Township, where he still resides.
DOLLY’S HANDWRITING. Using modern analytical tools, new insights on Dolly Copp the private person can now supplement what has long been known.
Before starting this hobby project I researched my own family history for some years. Several handwriting specimens were available from the era of my great grandparents 100 years ago. I had them analyzed by Irene Lambert, an outstanding graphoanalyst.
She has used her skills to assist large corporations in the review of candidates for top executive jobs, and has demonstrated her skills at academic institutions and on television. I developed great respect for her talent.
She was not told anything about my ancestors whose writing she was about to analyze. Invariably, her conclusions were supported as accurate by elderly relatives who had some memories of the deceased.
One great grandfather was remembered as warm and bubbly. She picked that up from his handwriting right away. Another was mean and the black sheep of the family. She had nothing nice to say about him!
We are fortunate that a writing specimen by Mrs. Copp has been preserved and was available for analysis by Mrs. Lambert. It is a letter written on 9/27/1880, in the 73rd year of her life, to her granddaughter Susan J. Copp of Littleton, New Hampshire.
As usual, Mrs. Lambert was not told anything about
Dolly's life in advance, except that a campground had been named
Mrs. Lambert’s report is reproduced below. Her conclusions on Dolly were most favorable and provide a fitting supplement to this history.
EMOTIONS: This is the writing of a woman whose feelings influenced all that she did. She reacted quickly to people and happenings around her. Sometimes, she would respond too quickly and regret her actions later.
Whatever she believed in, she believed intensely. When she disliked something, she disliked it fervently. She felt her emotions with great intensity.
THINKING: The specimen indicates a highly intelligent woman. Whether or not educated, she had the capacity to make good use of data and apply it to her work in a productive way.
She possessed a number of thinking patterns which enabled her to cope with whatever problems faced her. In seeking solutions, her mind went searching in its effort to learn. She easily grasped new concepts and with her critical tone could sift through the data for important information.
Above and below are
Quite often she would not accept what someone else had found, but would try to check it out for herself. When necessary, she could draw on her quick thinking to comprehend what was happening.
FEARS: She had an uncomfortable concern about the impression she was making upon others. Especially active was this trait in new or unusual situations and with unfamiliar people. Embarrassments or humiliations, of any kind, caused her great pain and discomfort.
DEFENSES: Under pressure, Dolly could become exasperated and impatient with herself and others. She could be easily annoyed and respond with irritability and sarcasm. There was no temper, but these quick barbed comments helped to release her tension.
She had a strong ability to concentrate when necessary. In fact, she was capable of focusing so strongly on something that she could lose herself in thought.
Possessing a strong sense of personal worth, she generally conducted herself in a dignified manner. She tried to live up to her own standards in her life. There was an independent spirit which did not allow her to accept unreasoning rules of established procedures. She made her own rules and followed them.
She liked to be right and could defend her views with ease. She enjoyed getting in the last word and could uphold and debate her convictions to the end.
TRAITS FOR SUCCESS: She did not cover up or misrepresent her actions and ideas in any way. Her honest, matter-of-fact approach to others was an asset in her business and social relations.
Steadfast in her pursuit of a task, she could work for a very long time in order to complete a project. She could press on even in difficult circumstances in order to complete her responsibility.
High goals pushed her to attempt challenges that others would not have taken. While not possessing a strong self-confidence, she had many wonderful traits to help overcome its affects.
She watched details carefully in arriving at conclusions and solving problems.
Having an effervescent nature helped her to inspire those around her. She added an air of excitement to a job and always gave it her best effort.
She was gifted with a marked insight that enabled her to understand and interpret without much effort. Her hunches were usually correct and helped her to stay on the right track.
APTITUDES: She possessed many strong abilities which allowed her to pick and choose her life's work. Her creative ability was the highest enabling her to express this talent in whatever she did.
Scientific ability was also high giving her the ability to seek answers and analyze her problems. She enjoyed inquiring, analyzing and researching in whatever project she found herself. And, because of her strong mental abilities, she was able to come up with good solutions.
But, whatever she was engaged in doing, she enjoyed people. Helping, instructing, and nurturing others was a basic motivation for her.
SUMMARY: While not knowing the history about Dolly Copp, I can tell from her writing that she was a very talented woman. She had an abundance of positive traits which enabled her to pursue and attain her goals. Her strong drive helped to fulfill her dreams. She was likable and enjoyed being with people.
While not allowing herself to behave unfavorably, she did enjoy recognition and approval from those around her. She had a desire to be significant, and apparently she succeeded.